Meyer is a legendary New York City restaurateur who started Union Square Café in 1986 then Gramercy Tavern in 1994. He has followed these two great restaurants with another eleven. Amazing.
I enjoyed the book on its own merits. I also read it because I’m developing a character who is a NYC restaurateur. I learned a lot.
One anecdote in particular caught my attention. Danny recounts how a friend/mentor, Pat Cetta, stopped by Union Square Café when it was still in its early stages. Danny was bemoaning how he wasn’t getting across to his staff a consistent message regarding his standards of excellence.
Pat pointed to the table next to them and told Danny to take everything off the table except the saltshaker, which was in the middle.
“Where is the saltshaker now?” Pat asked.
“In the middle,” Danny replied.
Pat moved it a quarter inch off center. “Go ahead,” he said, “put it where you want it.”
Danny moved it back to the center.
Pat moved it three inches off center.
Danny moved it back.
Pat repeatedly move the saltshaker off center, and Danny repeatedly moved it back.
Finally Pat explained his point, “Your staff and your guests are always moving your saltshaker off center. That’s their job. It’s the job of life. Until you understand that, you’re going to get pissed off every time someone moves the saltshaker off center. It’s not your job to get upset. Your job is to just move the shaker back each time and let them know exactly what you stand for.”
Danny got the message.
He writes, “Wherever your center lies, know it, name it, stick to it, and believe in it. Everyone who works with you will know what matters to you and will respect and appreciate your unwavering values.”
The anecdote struck home for me. I’ve long had a writing vision: why I’m writing what I write, and how I am writing it. However, I also admit to being plagued on occasion with self-doubt. I do not let my self-doubt get in my way of pursuing my writing vision. But I am always unhappy when that unpleasant cloud descends and always happy when it lifts.
I read a lot of romance, and I tend to read at the alt end of the radio dial, so to speak, the offbeat, the non-bestsellers. I’m looking for new ideas, odd twists, the undiscovered. I like the thrill of the hunt.
This past week I happened to read into the work of a couple of well known and highly praised romance authors whose books appear on bestseller lists but whose work I had not previously read.
After finishing a couple of books, I found myself in familiar territory, namely with self-doubt assailing me. I simply did not understand the great appeal of their work, and it made me question my work and its potential appeal. In one of the books the characters said a version of the same thing over and over, the characterization struck me as inconsistent, and the plot seemed gauzy if not also a bit muddled.
First: I never argue with success.
If a great number of readers are happy and satisfied with this story, all I can say is to the author is: Hats off!
Second: My job is never to run down another author’s work.
I mention my dissatisfaction with one book in particular because of the puzzlement and the ensuing self-doubts it engendered in me.
Then this afternoon I read the saltshaker anecdote, and I felt instantly re-centered. I have a vision for what I’m doing. Those who read and appreciate my work will recognize that I constantly strive to bring that vision to the page.
The opposite of self-doubt is confidence. Confidence flourishes when vision intersects with execution.
All of us authors know how counterproductive it is to compare our work to another’s. Whenever you’re faced with a feeling that you should be doing something different, that your work isn’t as popular/praised/whatever as someone else’s, reconnect to your personal writing vision and do your work.
Center your saltshaker.
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This post was written by Julie Tetel Andresen